My name is Kim Marino and I am happily married since November 6th of 1993 and am the mother of four children. I never like to say what my occupation is first…because that does not define who I am….it is just what I do. Who I am is a 42-year-old woman who tries to find balance between family, home, life and work…….and trying to slow down a bit….so that I can enjoy all of the important pieces to this puzzle called life. Because the work piece of the puzzle….. is always a piece that is there and that fits into the rest of the puzzle. It’s the other pieces: well I guess the big piece for me is my family. Which encompasses both my husband and my four children.
Keeping the four children healthy and happy….is every parents goal I think….because no matter how little or big they are you always want them to be happy. Whether they are an infant crying because of severe colic, a toddler crying because he lost his favorite yeng-ye (my Andrew’s word for blanket when he was little), a preschooler crying because she has to wear shoes to preschool…..why can’t she just go bare foot, or a school-aged child crying because a friend crushed his feelings so badly on the bus….you just about die inside…..you feel like your insides were just sucked out. And you wish through all the crying that they could all just be happy…all of the time, because then you would stop worrying. But my grandmother Lilla once told me this when I told her that I can’t wait to stop worrying (this is when my daughter Katie Lilla was born in 2003). My grandmother said: “Stop worrying? You will worry from the womb til the tomb”. And she’s right, from the moment you conceive you worry. I hope he’s healthy, I hope nothing is wrong with him. Until the day you die…..we as parents will worry.
So in the midst of all the worrying…I try to find balance and happiness with my children and my husband and our home and our lives overall……and of course work…which is the puzzle piece that always fits…..it’s our health and happiness that have to be kept most important……because those are the pieces that may not always fit…you know those puzzle pieces that the edges are bent and ripped, the pieces that are warped and just wont go in well….it is those pieces that you take care of the most…..
So that’s me…..but if you want to know about my work experience too….I have been working for the past 18 years doing home based speech and language therapy-with the little ones that just came home from the hospital and are on feeding tubes to school aged children working on cognitive rehabilitation. I have experience in feeding therapy, language development, articulation therapy, auditory processing, language processing, working with young children on the autism spectrum and as a cognitive rehabilitation specialist.
Well that’s me…..family and work. The former being most important.
Initially I thought about calling my blog the “mixed up speech mama”….because as a working mother of four children…..at times I feel a little bit “mixed up”. Many working mothers may have this mixed-up….moving too fast forward feeling. I think for me that is why I often feel “mixed up”, because as a working mother I am at times…. living in fast forward. So much to do and often not enough time to get it all done. Always trying to find the balance between family, home, work and in our lives.
And between working, the laundry, cooking, baths, homework, more laundry, cleaning, changing sheets, more laundry, food shopping, and more laundry…..we try and make sure that we find quality time with our children …because they grow up way too fast. And most importantly, to make sure that the time together is not rushed, but enjoyed.
So my original title…the mixed up speech mama….I guess I thought that it just would not make sense to the people out there that I am trying to help. How could I be the mixed up speech mama, when my goal is to help others communicate better, find the words that they are having trouble retrieving or help them to produce a sound clearer. Then I thought……maybe the title of my blog should be: the mixed up speech mama living in fast forward???? Because It does sometimes feel as if we are always getting ready for the next moment, getting ready for tomorrow and having a hard time in slowing down.
Well the bottom line is that I wanted to create this blog to share with the many families that I work with, have worked with and children that I have evaluated. As well as providing a resource to the families out there that I do not know….but are searching for answers to help their little one communicate better. I have much to share about speech and language development, strategies to help families help their children, cognitive rehabilitation, feeding strategies, expressive and receptive language delays, articulation concerns….and a little more.
So I hope that this blog is of help to the families out there that are trying to help their little one acquire language, produce a certain sound, overcome feeding issues, struggling with word finding concerns……and of course a little more to make you laugh and smile…..for the immediate need to laugh and smile…..look above in the main menu for G-isms.
In my family saying “I’m sorry” is very important…..but the words, “I forgive you”…..mean more to me than anything. I think it says that you no longer hold anger in your heart…and that you have let the burden go…and that you are willing to continue as friends, sisters, brothers, family….whatever your relationship may be.
The first line in Ronnie Dunn’s song “Bleed Red”….sings in my head so often.
“Let’s say we’re sorry before it’s too late. Give forgiveness a chance.”