How to cope with being a working mama….

 

 

 

This post is dedicated to my incredible sister, Jen……and this picture above is for her….so she sees the light at the end of the tunnel…..or the hope at the end of the rainbow…..she goes back to work this Friday…following a maternity leave for her third child.  We chat often about the challenges of motherhood….and how the hard part is leaving your children…and feeling the guilt of leaving them….despite knowing they are with grandparents and with people who love them just as their own.  But no matter how you rationalize it….it is still hard….hard to leave them…and hard to not feel guilty about leaving them. 

She and I talked the other day…and I told her that I often felt as if I was “breaking up” with my little one when I was going back to work after my maternity leaves….I was breaking the bond that I had shared with my Zach, Andrew, Katie or Gregory…and how someone else would now be taking my place…and as I hear Jen talking…I can feel what she feels because I know it as well….as a working mama…….my four kids are all in school now…so that makes the guilt easier…but it is still there.

So I write this post as a reminder to Jen…to tell her what an amazing mother, sister, friend, aunt and person she is……I have written about her before…and all that she did for me when my Zach was born…when my husband and I were struggling with the challenges of a baby that literally screamed all of the time…and trying to survive everyday of life with a baby that never really smiled or was happy (read on A ROCK STAR page above to find out what an incredible young man he is)……..well…Jen was part of the reason we survived those days. 

So my sister now needs to be reminded about what a wonderful mama she is….and that her children love her and adore her more than anything in the world.  She has more patience than most mamas I know.  Jen is loving, sweet, happy, forgiving, giving, understanding, patient, caring and kind.  She is so close to all three of her children and of course to her husband.  They share a love that I know she is so blessed to have….and they are a team in raising their little ones…and that is crucial for the working mama.  And while Jen is at work…my nieces and nephew are lucky enough that they will be with grandparents….how great for all of them…the children and the grandparents….because time really does go by quickly.

So Jen I am not sure how you can make this Friday any easier…but maybe think of all of the blessings your three little ones have….and even though you are going to feel the “break up”…..kids are so resiliant…they probably will not…they will love the time with their grandparents…and then cherish the moment you walk in the door……and remember…during your day when you are away from them…count the hours until you are back together….rather than the hours apart…..think about the hope at the end of the rainbow….and how lucky you are to have what you have in your life.  Most importantly remember it is okay to feel sad…..but remind yourself about what you are thankful for…and keep counting the hours until you are home….and the days til summer vacation…I think you said 38….

 

 

 

 

 

 

 
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About Kim

My name is Kim Marino and I have been practicing as a licensed speech and language pathologist since 1993. I work on Long Island providing diagnostic evaluations and services to children from birth to age 21. My experience is vast and am proud to say that I work with children that may present with articulation and phonological concerns, oral motor feeding concerns, Down Syndrome feeding, cognitive rehabilitation, auditory processing delays, receptive language delays, cleft palate feeding and sound development and expressive language delays. Most importantly, I am the mother of four amazing children and am happily married to my childhood sweetheart. I feel blessed to have my four children and so lucky to share this journey in life with my husband. I always had it somewhere in my head that I wanted to develop a blog or a website of some sort so that I could provide families with an additional resource....so that parents could help their little ones become a better communicator. And as I was developing this blog....I realized that I also needed to share the stories about my life and my children....and the funny things along the way that help to keep me smiling. Whether you are a working mother or not...finding balance between home, children and life can be a challenge....I hope that my blog helps to bring a smile to your face..and also some tools to help you help your little or big one. I hope you enjoy! Kim
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2 Responses to How to cope with being a working mama….

  1. Jen says:

    It is 2:30 in the morning. I am warming up a bottle for a night time feeding for Gianna and I just love what you wrote. Thank you so much for the wonderful post that you wrote. It makes me feel so much better about Friday and it is so nice to know that someone else and I am sure millions of working mamas, understand what I am feeling. I keep reminding myself that 38 days is nothing.

  2. Jen says:

    So I have already read this post twice,and i imagine that i will read it a million times before Friday, Thank you for understanding the feelings of leaving your children and knowing the right words to say,. No one has said it any better then feeling like your “breaking up” with your own children. I just hope that I can one day mange my work life and family life as well as you do. Thank you Kimberly Ann. I don’t think anyone out there is as lucky as I am to have two wonderful sisters. Thank you for always understanding me and PLEASE wish me luck on Friday.

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