What is true friendship?

 

 

This post goes out to a new friend of mine…however……I feel like I have known her forever.  She may not know it…but I am not good at making new friends……even though I speak for a living…well I try to help little ones speak….I am not great at trying to speak when it comes to new people….and the possibility of new friends.  Maybe I am a little judgemental and maybe I have certain expectations…..and maybe I don’t want to be disappointed….and maybe I am hoping that this new friend will understand the dynamics of my busy life.  

Being so busy….makes it hard to make new friends…it makes it hard to be reciprocal (I have used this word before to talk about language….so I will make reference here…reciprocal in language is the back and forth of language….the conversation that occurs between two people…the give and take in a conversation…..it is the same in friendship…the back and forth that takes place)…for me….working and having a family…makes it hard to keep the balance between the give and the take in a friendship…the reciprocity of friendship if that’s a phrase…not sure. 

Anyway….I just told my new friend the other day that “every second of my day is accounted for“.    And I did not say this to her because I wanted her to feel badly for me….it is just a true statement about my life…and it really is in reference to how I manage my life….and how make it work for me

And in thinking about my new friend….I believe she  understands that the “give and take” in a friendship….may not always be equal….but she knows that it does not have to be…..because we have a true friendship…and…..there is no need for things always being equal….you give when you can….you take when you need to…..knowing that what you are being given is unconditional.

So I believe….that this new friend in my life…..maybe I should give her a very simple name….hmmmmmmm……V…..seems perfect….for Valued…..well I believe this new friend in my life….she’s one of those easy friends….you know…someone that does not require much…meaning…just your friendship…..and when you are together….it is simple and easy…there is no stress….no stress for anything….and the nice thing about the easy friend…is that sometimes the friendship…..is across texts….or phone calls…usually texts though…or FB messages…some emails….and even though the reciprocity of friendship is not always between two friends in the same room….the energy is felt across the town.

So….I would like to thank my new friend….for understanding that my life is more complicated than yours only when it comes to work hours (that I get paid for)….because the mommy hours are hours that you don’t get paid for but keep you just as busy……and thank you for the genuine friendship our children have created…..an easy friendship….just like ours…..and for helping me….taking my boy for the day…..and helping him to have “the most incredible day of his life“…..but most importantly……..for being my ESFFATP.

Love,

Kim

About Kim

My name is Kim Marino and I have been practicing as a licensed speech and language pathologist since 1993. I work on Long Island providing diagnostic evaluations and services to children from birth to age 21. My experience is vast and am proud to say that I work with children that may present with articulation and phonological concerns, oral motor feeding concerns, Down Syndrome feeding, cognitive rehabilitation, auditory processing delays, receptive language delays, cleft palate feeding and sound development and expressive language delays. Most importantly, I am the mother of four amazing children and am happily married to my childhood sweetheart. I feel blessed to have my four children and so lucky to share this journey in life with my husband. I always had it somewhere in my head that I wanted to develop a blog or a website of some sort so that I could provide families with an additional resource....so that parents could help their little ones become a better communicator. And as I was developing this blog....I realized that I also needed to share the stories about my life and my children....and the funny things along the way that help to keep me smiling. Whether you are a working mother or not...finding balance between home, children and life can be a challenge....I hope that my blog helps to bring a smile to your face..and also some tools to help you help your little or big one. I hope you enjoy! Kim
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