“Don’t judge a man until you’ve walked a mile in his shoes”
I did a Google search to see who coined this phrase….but did not have any luck….if someone else out there knows…please post a reply.
I actually edit this phrase….because I believe that you can not even judge a man after you have walked that mile in his shoes….because even if you were faced with the same events…bad or good….no matter what you were faced with: a challenge in your life….something you were struggling with and trying to over-come….a relationship…..a friendship….trouble in a marriage…difficulty in parenting….just in how you deal with what’s presented to you in your life……..no matter what the case is…..I can not judge a man even if I walked in his shoes….because how I deal and cope with a challenge in my life….even if it was the same challenge that the man I was judging faced…..how I deal with that challenge will be very different from how he deals with that challenge. And this is because of the events in my life at the time….the events in my past that made me who I am today….the circle of family and friends that support me….all of these factors that make up my life….are very different from the man I believe we should NOT be judging….who he is….where he is from…and how he got to where he is will affect the decisions he makes….and those decisions may be very different from mine…even if the presented challenge was just the same.
So in my life…..I try hard not to judge when I don’t agree….rather have more of an understanding as to WHY that person may have reacted the way he did…..and maybe learn HOW I can help that person get where he needs to be…..if in fact that is where he needs to be.
Rather than judge the man after you have walked a mile in his shoes….maybe walk with that man…to help him to get where needs to be….and then maybe understand better why he made the choices he made…because you walked with him…not judged him.