How to deal with death and dying

On October 15, 2011….a friend of ours passed away unexpectedly….he was married and they were expecting their first child this April of 2012.  The wake and funeral were both so incredibly sad….and to see the sadness on the faces of his wife…his parents…his siblings..and all of his friends was just horrible. 
All week I have had him and his family on my mind….trying to figure out how people actually move forward when something so tragic happens to a man of only 38 years.  Grieving is such a hard process and I am not sure how you move forward.   And as a mother myself….I know that it is not the right order of things for a child to pass before the parents.

The words to the song below have been “stuck” in my head all week…..I believe they really represent how a loved one truly feels when they are dealing with the death of their spouse, their child, a family member or a true friend.
 

Everything I Own – Bread
You sheltered me from harm.
Kept me warm, kept me warm
You gave my life to me
Set me free, Set me free
The finest years I ever knew
were all the years I had with you

I would give anything I own,
Give up my life, my heart, my home.
I would give everything I own,
just to have you back again.

You taught me how to love,
What it’s of, what it’s of.
You never said too much,
but still you showed the way,
and I knew from watching you.
Nobody else could ever know
the part of me that can’t let go.

I would give anything I own,
Give up my life, my heart, my home.
I would give everything I own
Just to have you back again.

Is there someone you know,
you’re loving them so,
but taking them all for granted.
You may lose them one day,
someone takes them away,
and they don’t hear the words you long to say

I would give anything I own,
Give up my life, my heart, my home.
I would give everything I own
Just to have you back again.
Just to touch you once again

 

 

 

 

 

About Kim

My name is Kim Marino and I have been practicing as a licensed speech and language pathologist since 1993. I work on Long Island providing diagnostic evaluations and services to children from birth to age 21. My experience is vast and am proud to say that I work with children that may present with articulation and phonological concerns, oral motor feeding concerns, Down Syndrome feeding, cognitive rehabilitation, auditory processing delays, receptive language delays, cleft palate feeding and sound development and expressive language delays. Most importantly, I am the mother of four amazing children and am happily married to my childhood sweetheart. I feel blessed to have my four children and so lucky to share this journey in life with my husband. I always had it somewhere in my head that I wanted to develop a blog or a website of some sort so that I could provide families with an additional resource....so that parents could help their little ones become a better communicator. And as I was developing this blog....I realized that I also needed to share the stories about my life and my children....and the funny things along the way that help to keep me smiling. Whether you are a working mother or not...finding balance between home, children and life can be a challenge....I hope that my blog helps to bring a smile to your face..and also some tools to help you help your little or big one. I hope you enjoy! Kim
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2 Responses to How to deal with death and dying

  1. Melissa says:

    The son Fragile, by Sting, also a good one.

  2. Melissa says:

    Extremely helpful and thorough!

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