When your child is sad…..age does not matter

I had to write today’s post about how age does not matter when it comes to your child feeling sad.  Whether he is a newborn baby crying…a toddler…a preschooler…or your school-aged boy…who just got his heart-broken for the very first time…..as a mother…you feel his pain….his sadness…..and want to take it all away….and tell him that it will be okay….that it will pass….that things will get better.  But does age matter when it comes to feeling a loss…feeling that sadness of someone leaving you?  I would imagine not….I imagine that whatever happens in our bodies….our minds…and our souls….it most likely is the same, in a sense for all of us. 

But when your boy…..feels as if someone above must “hate” him….and that is why she left him…how do you explain that to a child that would not hurt a soul….that felt more sadness for his younger brother…..his younger brother who was crying for him…..crying because he felt sad that his older brother was sad.  And then to hear your oldest…in his room with his little brother…trying to explain to him…that things happen for a reason and a purpose….and that things will get better….and that everything will be okay.  All of the things you were telling him…to keep him strong…to keep his head up high in school today….to not crumble in a ball…to keep moving…and to believe that his life is taking him where he needs to be.  I think it crushes you more inside….to hear your child….trying to be strong for his younger brother…when inside he truly is falling apart. 

 So I am certain that his age does not matter……even though he is only 14 years of age….he has an old soul….and he carries that with him in all that he does…and all those he interacts with.  So….knowing this child…watching him grow…and watching him as he interacts…loves…supports…and acts as a guide to his siblings….makes it harder as a mother to watch him in pain.  The pain that I believe effects us all the same….on the inside…despite our age.  It is how you handle it…how you move forward….and how you must then rely on your family to be your support.

But in the meantime….as the mama…the insides of your body feel like they have been sucked out….because when your child feels pain or sadness….age does not matter.

About Kim

My name is Kim Marino and I have been practicing as a licensed speech and language pathologist since 1993. I work on Long Island providing diagnostic evaluations and services to children from birth to age 21. My experience is vast and am proud to say that I work with children that may present with articulation and phonological concerns, oral motor feeding concerns, Down Syndrome feeding, cognitive rehabilitation, auditory processing delays, receptive language delays, cleft palate feeding and sound development and expressive language delays. Most importantly, I am the mother of four amazing children and am happily married to my childhood sweetheart. I feel blessed to have my four children and so lucky to share this journey in life with my husband. I always had it somewhere in my head that I wanted to develop a blog or a website of some sort so that I could provide families with an additional resource....so that parents could help their little ones become a better communicator. And as I was developing this blog....I realized that I also needed to share the stories about my life and my children....and the funny things along the way that help to keep me smiling. Whether you are a working mother or not...finding balance between home, children and life can be a challenge....I hope that my blog helps to bring a smile to your face..and also some tools to help you help your little or big one. I hope you enjoy! Kim
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One Response to When your child is sad…..age does not matter

  1. Virginia says:

    so sweet that your boys care about each other sooooooo much.

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